Pastor, I so appreciated your insight this morning! There has been such a condemning mindset in the church towards people who’ve divorced. I must admit, that I was that way, and then my own marriage ended in divorce. I had always thought that people who divorced just didn’t try hard enough or pray hard enough or whatever. But marriage takes two, and when one isn’t interested in working anymore…well, I found myself picking up the pieces.

Things that especially jumped out at me this morning were when Herb and then you read from Jeremiah 3 about GOD being divorced. I know I’ve read that passage before, but I guess it never really sank in. God hates divorce because He knows what a mess it makes in our lives: He’s been there.

Your explanation about the whole remarriage after divorce thing made so much sense to me: that if you’re divorced just because you didn’t feel like continuing in a marriage then God views any other relationship as adultery. The verses about that situation have always been very puzzling and condemning to me, that I didn’t deserve to ever marry again. Thanks for a shot of hope!

I also appreciated the Greek word that you shared concerning marital unfaithfulness: that it is the root word for pornography. My ex-husband was never physically involved with another woman as far as I know, but he was incredibly addicted to porn. I’ve had so many well-meaning people try to tell me that I really should’ve stayed with him, that his sexual addiction really didn’t count as adultery, that kind of thing. The message you shared this morning was in some ways difficult to hear, but also very freeing. Thank you for talking frankly about something that very few spiritual people will tackle!!!

Good word Pastor … Stay encouraged :0)

Pastor, I haven’t taken so many notes or thought about a sermon so much for a long time! It was a great lesson not only for adults, but for the teenagers as well. Especially how you explained ‘marital unfaithfullness’ as being any kind of sexual immorality. This is definitely a sermon I’ll get on CD and hang on to for future reference when talking to our boys about marriage.

Pastor-My husband and I enjoyed Sunday’s service very much. However it has left me unsettled. My husband’s 1st marriage did end due to adultress behavior. Mine however ended due to daily mental/ emotional abuse, and to many other issues to mention. I was saved at the time I left but backslid, divorced and now am remarried. My husband and I have been married for almost 9 years and it is wonderful. It was not always that way. in the beginning we both brought alot of baggage and made many mistakes against one another but over the years have dealt with the issues and are truly in love. We do not see divorce as an option ever for us. My husband loves me as Christ loves the church and I submit to him. Of course we are not perfect but we have come so far. I struggle not knowing if I am an adultress that is just lost. I love the lord and my husband and have a hard time believing my marriage is wrong. I have been searching scripture today looking for more indepth answers- could you be of some assistance?? I want to be whole in Christ and pure of heart. We look forward to next week’s service. God Bless-

Pastor Diehl, I know two men and their wife’s who were not saved when they married. Now both men have choose JESUS and are born again. But their wife’s are not. One man is in the early stage with his walk with Christ, it’s 3 years. He loves his wife. But she is very abusive to him both verbally, mentally and physical with him, but he stay’s. Waiting for her to except JESUS. He leaves her to get a timeout then he goes to the same abuse as before. And goes back to doing drugs and alcohol. Also her own family is afraid of her. It’s like she’s demon processed. The 2nd Man has been saved for about 15 years. He thought about going into the ministry. But his wife’S family is from a catholic back ground, so when he started going to another church they felt he joined a cult. And also the same is with him he is being verbally and mentally abused to the point he is braking the law and being arrested to get peace from her. They both are trying to make their marriage work, and waiting for their wife’s to get saved. But they are both going though tribulation. They are both doing what the Bible said to do. Why Man or Woman should they stay in these kind of a Abusive Marriages?

I just wanted to say we got a chuckle out of the 2yrs. for every year your 1st marriage was. I had been married for 28 yrs. when I got divorce.
Denny and I got married 6months after we met.
We are very happily married. We are together 24-7 and will be married 11yrs. in March.